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2003-09-14 13:02 | User Profile
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Tough life for stay-at-home moms? Posted: September 12, 2003 1:00 a.m. Eastern
é 2003 WorldNetDaily.com
One of my recent callers came up with what I'm sure she thought was the singular most legitimate reason for not being a stay-at-home-mom: "... it's not all enjoyable." I kid you not, she actually said that, followed by, "... and I just don't seem to be able to do it well." She did say that being with the kids was fine, it was all the other stuff: housekeeping, shopping, cooking, and so forth ââ¬â that were described as unrewarding and relentless and, well, just not enjoyable.
She also complained that she just couldn't do it all well. I asked her what part of putting dishes in the dishwasher and making sure the clothes got through the washer and dryer and back into drawers was too complicated for her? She laughed and said that she didn't know why it was hard for her to do it right ââ¬â it just was. Mind you, this was all said with a tone that did not suggest she had great concern about doing any of it better.
Truth be told, whether coming from a man or a woman, this behavior is self-centered, and displays a character that knows little of honor, obligation and sacrifice. This is a mentality, rampant today, that speaks not of what "I can do for my family?" but only for "What will I get out of what I do for my family?"
Whenever I hear either men or women tell me that some part of their responsibilities as citizens, fathers, mothers, husbands, wives, adult children is not "enjoyable," I always remember an experience my husband, son and I had while on a driving trip through Arizona and New Mexico. We stopped off for lunch at a small cafe in what appeared to be an old-west type ghost town. It had a small museum with all kinds of yuchhy stuffed snakes that our then young son just loved.
For a few extra cents, we got to go into an old, abandoned coal mine ââ¬â a real one that had been worked by men supporting their families and producing power for their neighbors in a bygone era. It was illuminating ââ¬â the experience, not the tunnel! While in the tunnel I was struck by how dark, damp, cramped and difficult working in the mine had to have been. I couldn't imagine anybody "enjoying" the experience.
The last few generations have been brought up with too much and too little: too much opportunity and things, too little gratitude and obligation. We actually have a large segment of our population that couldn't imagine giving without getting, sacrificing out of obligation, suffering out of responsibility, following through out of honor.
Consequently, I've gotten calls from men with wives raising their children who don't feel satisfied enough about their careers and want to go back to school or start some business or change jobs or risk a move for an unsafe opportunity ââ¬â and are resentful that they should have to consider their responsibilities to their families. Unbelievable!
The woman caller was resentful that her husband did not come home and do housework. I asked her when she did his paperwork, made his phone-calls, drove in his rush hour traffic and dealt with his boss. Silence. I reminded her that she is part of a team and each member of the team has its own responsibilities and that the end result was a peaceful, happy home.
In response to her call, a number of women wrote me to describe their deeper understanding of being the family team member at home.
Anita wrote:
I have something to say to the woman who was just not "enjoying" it. Life is like that. We all have stuff we don't like. True, there are some tasks we must do that may not be pleasant, but for the most part, we are free to choose what we do and when we do it. We are doing something extremely important and irreplaceable. But think this thought: We have incredible power within the home. We set the tone of the whole family. It is our honor to serve those we love and those who love us. And our lives are blessed with things that an office does not offer:
The warm sun on your face.
The laughter of children.
Their sweet breathing when they are asleep.
Breezes, flowers, spectacular cloudscapes. Look at the world through the eyes of your children and see what a marvelous world we live in. Enjoy it all with them.
Sabina, another listener, wrote, "If she doesn't like being at home and walks out on her family when they need her, what does this teach her children? I have often used this myself as a teaching tool. When I ask my kids to do something, they frequently balk at my requests. When my daughter refused to help her siblings or do her chores, I tell her that we all have to do things we don't like to do.
"Each person in our family has responsibilities and we take care of each other. I tell her that sometimes I don't feel like getting up in the morning. What would happen if one day I didn't get up? How would she like it if I didn't make her lunch just because I didn't feel like it? She usually grumbles that she wouldn't like it and then proceeds to do her chores. The amazing thing is that it not only works, it's the absolute truth and really makes kids think about responsibilities and obligations."
And if we had a whole society filled with people who saw the world this way ...
* Dr. Laura Schlessinger is the best-selling author of books focused on successful relationships, parenting ideas, morality and personal ethics. She may be contacted by fax at (818)461-5140, or by writing: Dr. Laura Schlessinger; P.O. Box 8120; Van Nuys, CA 91409. *
2003-09-14 13:24 | User Profile
The term "stay-at-home-mom" is Newspeak for homemaker. American society orders all women to have to work outside the home and believe in the notion that they have to "have it all" and need "fulfillment". American society abhors homemakers to the core.
I am not surprised by the commentary in that article. When being a homemaker is associated with terms like "bored housewife", the ones that are indeed such think they have to wear a scarlet letter because they don't have their beloved career like the other ones. They are convinced what they do is "unfulfilling" and "unrewarding" so what is the point of being at home with the kids??
Women allowed themselves to be conditioned and tamed by the shrew head-to-toe, and they are the ones that will suffer to the end because they made it that way.
2003-09-14 21:51 | User Profile
What I always find so funny about these kind of nonsense complains lies in nature of the alternatives: putting up with corporate inanity, putting up with bureacratic inanity, working 60 hour weeks, etc.
Hanging out with kids, cooking, and shopping sound like positive joys in comparison with most full time jobs one can work today. Doing the laundry and cleaning a bit--well, yes, maids are nice, but it's not exactly the most horrible thing one has to do.
But lo, so many white girls seem to have some kind of religious mania about 'careers.' Certainly, Jews and homosexual in the media and academia were the principles agents creating the culture undergirding this mania. Beyond that, we should probably look back to perversions of ancient traditions about the value of chastity, re-interpreted to mean the value of not letting the white man have children with you. Originally, in a world of limited food resources and a lack of artificial birth control, valuing chastity (among the Celts, among Christians, etc.), have white a decided cultural advantage. Today, when we have tamed nature to such an extent that it wont 'take its course,' conscious pursuit of non-reproduction is just adding fuel to the fire of all the non-conscious factors contributing to low white fertility rates. White girls need to wake up.
2003-09-14 22:19 | User Profile
"Homemaking" may have been a harder chore decades ago, when there weren't as many machines around to keep your food cold, dishes and clothes washed, food reheated in a microwave etc. etc. Let's do a simple test and ask dads how many of them would have agreed to stop working and sit at home instead.
Having more children and paying less taxes is benefitial to the whites and deadly to the parasites.
2003-09-14 23:08 | User Profile
Isn't it true MR that many Russian women are now rejecting the Soviet feminist doctrines and are returning to more traditional roles?
2003-09-14 23:40 | User Profile
Maybe I should go check :D
2003-09-15 00:46 | User Profile
More feminist B.S.
And who gave us feminism? Baptists? Nope. Mexicans? Nope. Blacks? No.
Jews.
*Here is a list of major Jewish feminists:
-Gloria Steinem (1934- ); founder, Ms. Magazine.
-Bella Abzug (1920-1998); Civil rights and labor attorney elected to Congress (House of Rep.) from New York City; served 1971-1977.
-Betty Friedan (1921- ); feminist leader and author of the book "The Feminine Mystique" (1963).
-Shulamith Firestone (1945- ); Canadian feminist. Wrote "The Dialectic of Sex" (1970).
-Andrea Dworkin (1946- ); radical; apparent lesbian. Author of the book "Intercourse" (1987).
-Susan Brownmiller (1935- ); U.S. feminist. Wrote the book "Against Our Will" (1975).
-Susan Faludi (1959- ); author of the book "Backlash" (1992).
-Naomi Wolf (1962- ); advisor to Al Gore in the 2000 U.S. presidential election.
-Emma Goldman (1869-1940); early U.S. feminist.
-Ernestine Rose (1810-1892); b. in Poland; early feminist.
-Phyllis Chesler (1941- ); U.S. feminist; author of the book "Woman's Inhumanity to Woman" (2002).
-Judy Chicago (Cohen) (1939- ); U.S. feminist. Author of the book "The Dinner Party" (1996).
-Robin Morgan (1941- ); U.S. feminist. Former editor-in-chief, Ms. magazine.
-Letty Cottin Pogrebin (1939- ); U.S. feminist; co-founded Ms. magazine.
-Gerda Lerner (1920- ); b. in Austria.
-Annie Nathan Meyer (1867-1951); U.S. feminist.
-Maud Nathan (1862-1946); sister of Annie Nathan Meyer; U.S. feminist.
-Geri Palast (1950- ); chair, Committee on Women in the Global Economy; U.S. feminist.
-Rose Schneiderman (1882-1972); b. in Poland.
-Anita Pollitzer (1894-1975); U.S. feminist; pal of artist Georgia O'Keeffe.
-Gene Boyer (no birthyear available); a founder of N.O.W.; president of Jewish Feminists; U.S. feminist.
-Lucy Komisar (1942- ); author of the book "The New Feminism" (1971); U.S. feminist.
-Karen Nussbaum (1950- ); (apparently Jewish); leader of 9to5-National Association of Working Women.
-Eleanor Flexner (1908-1995); (apparently Jewish--relative is a Zionist); U.S. feminist.
-Riane Eisler (1931- ); b. Vienna; author/feminist; (apparently Jewish--fled Nazis). Author of the book "The Chalice and the Blade" (1987). *
2003-09-15 02:11 | User Profile
The media and public schools teach girls to be boys. Girls are given sexual preferences to further encourage them to trade family for wage slavery. It's a great deal for "them" as it both raises more money for the government and promotes the extinction of whites.
A hundred years ago, there was no choice. Mom had to stay home. There was no birth control to keep her childless. There were no washers and dryers to make laundry a quick and easy task. Etc.
Now, a woman can stay home, do a couple hours of work and spend the rest of the time as she chooses. She can pick up a helpful hobby, like culinary art. I like gardening.
About a year ago I finally concluded that there is virtually never a need for two incomes as the money from the second income is mostly wasted on expenses of a second job, increased household expenses, and marginal tax rates. If there really is a need for more money, there are some great oppertunities at home. For example, a day care. Mom can babysit a neighbor kid, or two. Not only would she get paid for this but then she can write-off maybe a third of the mortgage and utility bills as business expenses! Think about it!
In having children, there is no trade off between quality and quantity. So, have lots of children!
2003-09-15 02:28 | User Profile
If Dr. Laura believes so much in home and hearth, she should put her shekels where her mouth is and quit her radio gig to be at home for her kids.