Apparently, Ms. Hymowitz has figured what the problem is. Women today are users of men.
Why Are Men So Angry?
Guapo, you've made good points.
The modern state in general is based around the desires of women, but this has been true for a while. It frees women from the consequences of their sexual behavior, through providing birth control, abortion, easy adoption, and benefits for single mothers. In this last respect and also through divorce courts it also frees women from having to rely on men, either relatives or otherwise. I was talking to a tradcat friend recently who's been brainwashed by modern feminism, possibly through his tradcat friends, and I was making the argument that so long as abortion is entirely in the power of the woman, it is unfair to force men to pay child support. He insisted that this law was necessary because it "might save lives." I mentioned to him that there were other recourses besides forcing men to pay child support to achieve this...and I didn't mean just private charities. I mentioned also that a woman might have to be nicer to her baby daddy, instead of just relying on the law to coerce him. He had been trained or self-trained to think that women have no responsibility for any of their actions. It's the same for other social conservatives too. The point of this aside is to show that the premise of the modern state, the independence of woman from her biology and also from having to rely on men, is not just a legal principle but a moral and spiritual one that has infected the minds of all, including "conservatives." The modern state is arranged around the desires of women. In the areas of the US and Europe that are most prosperous and "advanced," which are necessarily the areas that allow the greatest leisure and money to fuel the driving force of the modern mind, you see this principle appear very concretely. Hipster SWPL culture--which is the West's most "advanced" culture--is entirely based around the desires of women and fags, with lots of small cocktail bars, "gastropubs," and "tapas"-like places that serve the tastes of homosexuals and women. It's not even just the orientation around eating and drinking, but the form it takes, it is nauseating to see.
The modern state is therefore unnatural, being arranged around the needs of women, who are weaker. One possible way this will change is when the US becomes 35% Hispanic. I know this is an unpopular idea, but these people haven't been quite brainwashed by the feminist establishment. It is within the SWPL upper middle class that the speech and behavior codes are enforced, but the ability of these people to run the culture generally will possibly be diminished when there is a critical mass of Latin-Indio types, who are traditionalist on a personal level. Remember that Sam Huntington was a liberal; a lot of liberals are afraid that allowing many Mexicans into the US will turn it more conservative. I'm not saying demographic change will be a net good, but it might destroy feminism.